Dear DEIDRE: I am heartbroken that my children have decided to cut me out of their lives.
All I ever tried to do was be there for them, but they threw my love back in my face.
I am 54 years old and have two sons.
The youngest, at 21, had a drug problem for some time.
The last time I saw him was about six months ago and I was concerned about his health and safety, so he confronted him about drugs.
We had a big argument.
He got so angry that he assaulted and ranted, saying that I was a terrible mother and that all his drug use was my fault.
The next thing I learned was that his 23-year-old eldest son, who had gambling and alcohol problems, had taken his older brother's side and didn't need me in his life anymore. said.
I have no idea what lie his younger son told.
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No contact for months. I'm disappointed
I do not deserve this treatment.
DEIDRE says: Both of your sons seem in denial about their addiction problems.
It's easy to rant and blame you.
Unfortunately, people cannot be helped until they want to change.
Perhaps a softer approach might work. Ask how to mend the relationship.
If they have another relative with whom they are still speaking, they can be asked to mediate.
Stand Alone (standalone.org.uk {50) } ) organization can help you. They support adults who are separated from their families.