Dear DEIDRE: I broke up with my partner a few months ago and started having the best sex ever. But it confused me.
We are still living together but in separate rooms while waiting for the keys to our new apartment.
I am her 34 year old male and she is her 32 year old.
She dropped the bombshell that she fell in love with me 5 months ago and wanted to break up.
As far as I'm concerned, it came suddenly.
I thought everything was going well, even though all the couples have bizarre arguments.
We have been together for her 6 years and have a 2 year old girl.
I was completely devastated, but accepted her decision and after a while started to pull myself together.
A few close friends persuaded me to go out and have a few drinks. This was a long time coming.
My partner was still awake when I got home.
We sat and talked for a while, remembering the first time we met.
When she reached out her hand to kiss me, I did not hesitate.
We have since agreed not to do it again, but we continue to have sex regularly.
I feel like we are still together.
I told her I wanted our relationship to start over, but her reaction was confusing.
She wants to be, but not now.
She said she could consider it if I moved. But how does that make sense?
I know she is chatting with a new man she met at work.
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When I asked about him, she claimed he was a friend.
Just in case this guy wasn't interested, I I'm starting to feel that she's backing up her plans.
DEIDRE says: If she is sexually involved with this man and has sex with you, you will tell her It means that you are telling Being one of her lovers is fine.
Set aside a time to talk to your partner and tell them that it is difficult to continue having sex without knowing what will happen in the future.
Then she can either reassure you or realize that it is wrong to take advantage of the situation if you have no intention of reconciling it.
Make it clear to her that you don't want other people involved because you want to repair her relationship.
Since you have young children, it is certainly worth the effort to build stronger relationships.
Show her how serious you are by offering her relationship counseling.
This will help build a more stable home for each other.
Send her pack of support in counseling to get information.
