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My sex life is boring and I feel like I’m wasting time staying with my husband

HE'S RUBBISH IN BED

DEAR DEIDRE: FOR some reason, I keep picking fights with my husband. I’m unhappy and feel like I’m wasting my life.

He’s 42 and I’m 43. He is a good man and a very good dad but he’s boring as hell.

 My husband is a good man but boring as hell and I feel I've wasted my life with him

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My husband is a good man but boring as hell and I feel I've wasted my life with him

Our sex life has never been great – once a month and over in two minutes.

He does lots round the house but never makes me feel special. He never comes up with ideas, he just does what I suggest.

He never goes out with his mates and that makes me feel guilty for having a night out with mine. I’m totally drained and I feel I’ve missed out on a much better life.

My children are teens now, I need to be thinking of me.

DEIDRE SAYS: You must be careful or you could make life much worse. He’s done nothing wrong. In fact, he sounds better than many.

It’s not the end of the world for you to be the one who comes up with ideas and does the arranging.

Your children still need you both and a calm, stable home. But now they are teens you have more freedom to rev up your marriage again.

The guidance in my e-leaflet Help Your Man Last Longer will help.

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