Barbara Howar: From D.C. Socialite to Media Maven (1934-2024)

Barbara Howar, a prominent figure in 1960s Washington society who later reinvented herself as a writer and broadcaster, passed away on August 2, 2024, at the age of 89. Her life journey from socialite to media personality spanned several decades and left an indelible mark on American culture.

In the mid-1960s, Howar was at the center of Washington's social scene during the presidency of Lyndon B. Johnson. She was known for her close relationship with the Johnson family and her vibrant parties that attracted politicians and diplomats. Life magazine described her in 1965 as "Washington's most discussed, outspoken and photogenic society matron in decades."

Howar's unconventional approach to social norms was evident in her actions and words. She once wore pajamas to an embassy gala and drove an orange motorcycle through Georgetown. Her wit was sharp and often directed at prominent figures, including Henry Kissinger.

After her divorce in 1967, Howar transitioned from socialite to writer and broadcaster. She wrote for major publications and published a best-selling memoir, "Laughing All the Way," in 1973. The book provided an insider's view of Washington society and was praised for its candor and writing style.

Howar's television career included roles as a political commentator and talk show host. She co-hosted "Panorama" with Maury Povich and later worked as a correspondent for "Entertainment Tonight," interviewing celebrities like Elton John and Paul McCartney.

"If I thought my epitaph would read 'hostess,' I'd refuse to die."

Her relationship with the Johnson family soured within a year of the president's inauguration, reportedly due to gossip about a party she was planning. This falling out led to her first major writing opportunity, an article titled "Why LBJ Dropped Me" for Ladies' Home Journal in 1968.

Throughout her career, Howar demonstrated a commitment to civil rights and the women's movement. In a 1977 interview with anti-gay rights activist Anita Bryant, Howar challenged her views, asking, "Where is your human sense of decency and fairness to people who are different than you?"

Born Barbara Stephanye Dearing on September 27, 1934, in Nashville, Howar grew up in Raleigh, North Carolina. Her early experiences, including dressing in a Women's Army Corps uniform during World War II, sparked her love for personal recognition.

After relocating to New York in 1980 and later settling in West Hollywood in 1993, Howar continued to work in media, including scouting television projects for producer Norman Lear.

Barbara Howar's life and career reflected the changing roles of women in American society from the 1960s through the turn of the century. Her journey from socialite to respected writer and broadcaster demonstrated her adaptability and determination to define herself beyond the confines of high society.