Any parent would find it frustrating to see their child having a meltdown and not understand why.
But children's experts revealed they were asking, "What's wrong?" It's at the top of the list of phrases to avoid.
Parenting Coach and Social Her Worker Connected Parenting Au shared the video on her TikTok account, writing, "Don't say when your child is having a meltdown. He revealed three things."
The mother of four then explained that there were some things parents could say that could make the situation worse.
She began: When our children are really disorganized and upset, they don't really have access to information about what's wrong. Instead of asking, you might try naming the emotion instead.
Connected Parenting Au next says the words, "Go to your room." I said it might be tempting, but it's best to avoid it.
She said: "When you were upset as a child and someone said, 'Go to your room and come back when you are restricted,' raise your hand.
"Yeah, it's me." And here's the problem - when we send children to their rooms, the ideal is for them to find that calmness on their own. Learning is not an expression of emotion, it is not a way to tune your brain.”
Instead, mothers asked their followers to go with them to their children's rooms or sit with them and talk about their troubles.
The third and final item on Connected Parenting Au's helpful list was to avoid phrases like "okay," "okay," and "good luck."
"The problem is that when we say, 'You're okay,' what we're really saying is, 'If you're not okay, neither am I.
She suggested another method and continued. When they are sad and when they are happy. Tell them we are their safe place. ''