DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend gets a lift from her ex to go to see her daughters and grandchildren and I’m fed up of it.
She’s 62 and I’m 68 and I’m widowed. She divorced her husband years ago after he cheated on her.
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We met because she lives across the road from me. We’ve been seeing one another for five years.
I love her and I’d like to remarry some time but her ex is always around.
They have two grown-up daughters and five grandchildren. I don’t drive.
My girlfriend goes to see her daughters at least twice a month and her ex toots his horn outside her house and when I see him through the blinds, it makes my blood boil.
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She then sits beside him for 40 minutes there and 40 minutes back, exchanging pleasantries.
Am I being childish kicking off when he texts her to make arrangements? She doesn’t see anything wrong in it.
DEIDRE SAYS: If you’re throwing your toys out of the pram when he texts her, yes, you are being a little childish.
He will always have a connection with her because of their shared daughters.
Remember, she has moved on now. He is history. They split up for a good reason.
Rather than moping around when she’s out with him, make sure you’re busy yourself. Try out a new hobby or project or go out with a friend.
You’ll find that this enriches you rather than enraging you.
