Building and maintaining trust is the pillar of any successful relationship, and once it's broken, it's often impossible to come back from. Anyone who finds out their partner has been cheating on them is understandably devastated, but when a child is involved, it becomes the ultimate betrayal.
One devastated woman has said that the 'walls are collapsing' in on her after she found out her boyfriend slept with another woman and got her pregnant. The gut-wrenching news was made even worse as she supported her cheating partner through his addiction issues and helped him get sober. Despite this, he chose to see another woman behind her back.
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Taking to Reddit to share her heart-breaking story, the woman, who remains anonymous, said: "My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years. To me this was the endgame relationship, I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him and as far as i knew, he felt the same.
"We had some struggles in the past year and a half or so especially, with him dealing with addiction issues & running into legal problems, but I’ve stood by him and tried my best to help him get sober. Finally, he decided to go to a 60 day out of state rehab program.
After the man's treatment, the American girlfriend even agreed to move to a different state with him so they could be closer to his rehab centre, but their plans were soon derailed when the woman found out that her partner was seeing someone else.
"I literally was supposed to be there next week, my entire life is packed up and ready to go, and last night he told me we needed to talk and then confessed that he slept with someone else, that she was pregnant, and that he feels like he needs to 'do the right thing' and be with her for the child. He said he was sorry and he loves me".
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Getty Images/iStockphoto)Struggling to cope with the confession, the woman continued: "I feel like literally the walls are collapsing in on me. I love this man. I have loved him through so much and to have this bomb dropped on me is just…unfathomable. I don’t know how I’ll ever get over something like this".
"If anyone has ever been through something like this, how did you overcome it? Is there ever a chance of reconciliation or some sort of friendship or is it just irrevocably broken?"
Hundreds of people offered the grief-stricken girlfriend their advice, with one writing in the comments: "He fell for someone else and didn't even have the balls to tell you when he knew you were planning on coming. Smh.
"That's why he wanted to stick around that area. I wouldn't want to see or speak to him ever again if I were you. If it's going to be that hard to get past this maybe try going to therapy."
Another person said: "That's pretty awful, I'm really sorry. You were there for him and he does this?
"I know you saw a future with him, but he threw that away. I wouldn't want to reconcile with him or be friends. All that will do is keep hurting you. You deserve better".
After reading everyone's advice, the woman updated her original post to thank people for their support, and said: "I feel really emboldened by peoples responses and I actually feel kind of relieved this morning.
"I know im [sic] going to be sad for a long time, but there’s now an undercurrent of relief and knowing that I get to be the architect of the future. It’s not easy to bare yourself to strangers but I’m glad I did".
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