DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN having sex with my girlfriend I can’t climax and I’m worried she will never conceive, as I can’t do the job.
I’m 31 and she’s 34. We’ve been together four years and she said from the start that she really wants children.
I said, “No problem,” as I want kids too. I had made a previous girlfriend pregnant. She had an abortion which made me so sad – but I knew I was fertile at least.
We’ve been trying a year but I cannot ejaculate during sex, though I can when I’m pleasing myself on my own. My doctor said that it isn’t a worry, but it is a worry to me.
first cut Caught my girl in bed with another man... then he did something I didn't expect
SEX WITH SISTER I had sex with my sister and now we are having a full-on relationship
HOTEL HELL My girl's wild step-sister seduced me in toilets and I'm disgusted with myself
Little secret My brother-in-law is my daughter's real father... and my husband has no idea
More, more, more! Hot romps with sex-on-legs housemate always leaves me wanting more
FAMILY AFFAIR Family are furious over my hot sex with brother's sister in law
Guilty sex I had hot sex with my 53-year-old mum-in-law while my wife was on life support
Blackmailed I've been bedding my 'uncle' and now his son is blackmailing me into having sex
anti-climax Love my girlfriend, but find I get more pleasure from porn than sex with her
FESTI-FAIL I had hot sex at Glastonbury... but I was the 20th guy she'd bedded that weekend
TOUGH CHOICE I'm having sex with my girlfriend's bestie... who's also dating my best mate
DEIDRE SAYS: You can ejaculate on your own so this isn’t a physical problem.
I’d say you have some fear deep inside holding you back. Are you worried what you’ll be like as a dad?
Reassure your girlfriend you love her and want to have children as much as she does.
Read my e-leaflet for Men Who Can’t Climax.
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