Dear Abby: I have been separated from my husband for a year and a half. The divorce was finalized 5 months ago. He had huge mood swings, being nice one time and nasty the next. we have two children.
I have a boyfriend I've been dating for about a year. We are casual, but monogamous. All of a sudden my ex-boyfriend told me that he was very kind and that he loved me. He too has a lot to do and he admits it. Lately he has been asking me to come cuddle for some kind of human contact, he says.I doubt my boyfriend would agree that this is a good idea.Sex is an argument There is no room for , and everyone knows it. What do you think? — Moving in Arkansas
Dear Moving: I think it's a terrible idea. It's not your job to snuggle up to your ex, so he has human contact. Don't buy what he's trying to sell you unless you actually intend to reconcile with him. Tell him that you always want a cordial relationship with him for the sake of your children.
Dear Abby: My wife and I Enjoy wines and tastings and a selection of fine vintages. I also enjoy learning about and tasting fine spirits such as Single Malt Scotch and Kentucky Herself Bourbon. The challenge is for my wife to pour whiskey like wine. She fills the glass halfway and drinks these spirits at the same pace she drinks wine. As you can imagine, she quickly gets drunk.
She does not seem to realize that drinking large amounts of spirits changes her behavior. She hasn't had a drink in weeks, so she doesn't think she's an alcoholic. But when she does, the amount of whiskey she imbibes makes her very intoxicated.There were occasional social events that I had to intervene in because her behavior became erratic.This is a new behavior and I'm worried she may be developing an addiction. What strategies can I use to discuss this with her? — Whiskey is not wine in Oregon
Dear W.N.W.: Your wife seems to have gone from a connoisseur to a heavy drinker. If you haven't pointed out that her behavior changed after she drank a lot of hard liquor (how many ounces are there in these glasses?), you should. That you had to intervene in a social situation should be a clue to both of you that she can't handle how much she's been drinking.
Since this is a new behavior, you should discuss it with your doctor. It could be a physical problem or a symptom of her age. Her doctor should explain how drinking large amounts of alcohol can impair her health, safety, and cognition and what she should follow. I can recommend a way. This is serious, so don't procrastinate.
Dear Abby: I have been married to the same woman for her 20 years. we are happy together I have her skin condition called NF1 and have tumors all over her body except her legs and face (these were removed years ago).
I still have many things on my arms that I want to take off. But my wife says she's happy the way I am, and when she sees me she says she's glad I'm the way I am. But for my own confidence, I want to let them go. Should I leave them alone or should I remove them? — TORN IN TENNESSEE
Dear TORN: If your wife says, It's great that you're in love. But it is equally important to love yourself for who you are. If you're happier and more confident removing growth, then you should.
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