One mom is causing waves on TikTok for her controversial parenting technique in which she lets her young daughter swear.
Abbey Fickley, who often posts videos with her 7-year-old daughter Myla, recently shared a clip showing her cursing — prompting people to question her style of parenting.
In the 15-second video, Myla is standing in the living room, complaining about wearing mismatched socks.
Fickley says that she will find her a matching pair with the seven-year-old responding: “This is like some wacky Wednesday kind of s–t, mom.”
Fickley laughed in response, saying she was going to get her some matching socks, with Myla replying “thank you.”
However, not all found it as funny as the mom did.
“You just let her cuss like that?” one user said incredulously while another admitted they “couldn’t” let their child swear.
Others came to the mom and daughter’s defense.
“Nothing wrong with it. She said it respectfully and funny and in the right way,” one TikTok user said.
“At least she said thank you,” added another.
In a follow-up video, Fickley explained she lets her daughter swear but only in their house — calling them “home words.”
“About a year or two ago, I decided that I would be the person in my daughter’s life to teach her the context of swear words,” she explained, adding Myla knows that “home words” are a privilege and can be revoked at “anytime.”
Fickley said in the two years of letting her daughter use “home words” she’s never had an issue with her using them in a disrespectful way.
“She’s a very well behaved, polite little girl who just gets good grades and is respectful to teachers and classmates never had an issue. Isn’t that crazy?” the mom said, adding she always wants their home to be a safe space for her daughter and doesn’t want her to be afraid of getting into trouble.
“And I understand not all of us were raised that way,” she acknowledged. “S–t, I wasn’t raised that way either. But I’m choosing to break the cycle.”
